The Meaning Behind: Like a Feather

Every time I open "traditional social media," I'm reminded of why I avoid it. The constant flood of negativity feels so overwhelming and my heart can't bear the weight of so much hate. 

Hate towards women.
Hate towards men.
Hate towards minorities.
Hate towards immigrants.
Hate towards people who look a little different than what we see in the mirror every morning.

Hate towards the rich - and the poor.
Hate towards science and facts.
Hate towards governments and law.

This list could go on and on. For the sake of us all, let's stop here. I'm starting to feel sick.

It almost feels like we hate... love. What a devastating thought, isn't it?

But what if we paused to ask ourselves why?

Instead of just returning the hate without thoughts or even trying to understand (understand - not accept!) where all this is coming from is just throwing more wood into the fire.

I would like us all to remember this:

• A person who is happy doesn't ever have the need to hate others
• A person who is in control of their own life, doesn't ever have the need to control others
• A person who is secure with themselves, doesn't ever have the need to feel threatened by others
• A person who finds joy and fulfillment in their own life, doesn't ever have the need to live through others
• A person who loves themselves, doesn't ever have the need to deny love from others.

It's not the others we hate when we behave like this.

A person who behaves like this, hates themselves. They feel scared, threatened and not in charge of their own lives. They might see qualities in others that they are not ready to accept in themselves. Instead of celebrating others' love, triumphs and happiness, they feel it's away from them. Denying others the things they are lacking (and wishing they would have).

These people are projecting their own hate towards others

Thinking that it will help them to feel better.

But hate can never be cured with hate.

Hate is actually very tiring feeling, it requires a lot of energy. Hate is in fact caring.

To hate something or someone means you care a lot. It's a heavy burden that weights us down while love lifts us up.

Now, I'm not saying that we shouldn't fight for our world, our freedom, our democracy. That we should just give in. No, we have to defend all those things - fiercely if needed!

But we also need to remember where this all comes from. And try to cure that.

The only way to cure hate is love - to love ourselves

It's a wonderful feeling when you realize that you are in fact the captain of your lives ship. Storms may come and storms may go but you hold the wheel.

Knowing that your worth isn't tied to anything nor anyone. You are valued and loved just the way you are by the most important and long-lasting relationship you ever have: by yourself.

We all are works in progress and we all get those not-so-nice feelings time to time. But when that happens, I would like you to pause and reflect why is that. Why this triggers me. What is still lurking in there, ready to make peace with me.

Because a person who's at peace with themselves, feels Like a Feather.

And with this piece, I would like you to make peace with yourself - everyday. Love yourself unconditionally, offer that safety and kindness that we all need in this life.

Be the Feather.